Wednesday, September 10, 2008
Does Absence Make The Heart Grow Fonder?
When you spend much of your spare time with your mate, is it considered withdrawal when you miss your mate when you are separated? Is love an addiction?
This summer has been a catastrophe for me on many aspects. Work completely took over most of my time, which cut into my private life drastically. The time spent working was definitely hindering my love life and my general sanity. I was lucky to see my guy once a week through the summer months. Although we spoke on the phone and chatted on-line, our specialty, I was starting to show the signs of breakdown. Being with him was my only escape from the hell of the summer months working in the hospitality industry, managing a flighty team, cutting chunks from my schedule daily. Without a day off in weeks, and no plans to "escape", my mental state was a balancing act of normal to psycho every step of the tight rope.
With the leaves falling, the school year starting and the summer heat cooling, my days off have returned and my "escape" time is reborn. We are back on track and I feel a bit more like myself again. Unfortunately, our days off are on opposite sides of the week, and we still have to fit in the time with our work interrupting or meetings. It always seems we are on a schedule, counting down the hours before we have to go our separate ways to our respective jobs. I love my days off and enjoy spending time on my own. It is something we are sure to not lose in our relationship. Now that I am seeing him more often, I seem to want more and more. It is almost like an addiction and when I am denied of the goods, I miss it dearly. Perhaps we need a vacation together, even if it is a quick 2 day getaway. Away from work and schedules.
I guess it is better to miss him when he isn't with me than to not miss him at all...