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Singlehood and Online Dating

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Well, if you have been reading this blog (as I assume no one does, hence the lack of comments), I have been pretty busy. I apologize immediately for not updating my life for all to see but, as a single woman in her soon depleting 30s, I have some oats to sow. Well, maybe not literally, in a bachelorette kind of way. I am not "popular" as my co-worker states (popular=slut). If you are familiar with my current situation, I have jumped out of my comfort zone and opened myself up to a whole new world of meeting new people. Yes, I have been known to chat on-line, but to people not looking for a date. Just pals with things in common.

In the past months I have been introduced to on-line dating. Although I have only met 4 or 5 people in person, I am talking to numerous people on-line in sites such as Plenty of Fish, Lavalife and the personal ads on Craigslist. If I had only saved the 50 or so emails from all of these sites I could write a book. I can still write a book about all of t…

Webcams and the such....

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I found this webcam in our recycling/waste area about 3 months ago. I thought that I would have no use for this computer accessory but brought it upstairs to my apartment nonetheless, just to see if it works. After finding the website to download the software for it, I got the camera working. I thought it was a neat gadget with many extras I could fool around with. The most I ever used it for was to take pictures for updating my Facebook profile.

In the past month I have been meeting people online, okay men, and I have been casually been talking to them through the website. If I like them I let them onto my hotmail and, in three cases, I accept calls and meet them for coffee or a drink. Yes, I am safe and make sure I am in a public place with them. In the case with Ray, we had 4 dates and it was fun. We went to dinner, a movie, etc, as you have read in my past blogs.

In the most recent case, the guy I have met has been in conversations with me over hotmail, and he seems really great. Fu…

Long Underwear...

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It is November...usually a rainy month with not a lot of sunshine. Lately we've had a bit of a break with the weather and the sun has broken up the dreary shorter days we are so used to in the lull before the Christmas rush. With the clear weather you also get the crisp, even cold, bone-chilling freezing temperatures that, as a Vancouverite, we aren't used to. I love fall and winter sunshine because the glare of the sun is not as harsh and the refraction of light from the tilt of the Earth makes everything look different . I don't have lots of clothes for this kind of weather though. I only have jeans. I can layer as many shirts and hoodies as I want but below the waist I am so cold! Jeans are the worst textile to wear in the chilly weather, too, as the freezegoes right through them, especially if they are a tight fit. Don't get me wrong, I am not the proud owner of a camel-toe, but I like my jeans to be slim not loose fitting.

For this particular reason I think I will …

Sick, Sick, Sick!!!

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The war is on!!! I think that the cold is winning at the moment. I woke up this morning feeling like a bag of phlegm. Yuck! Hopped in the shower and the steam broke it up a bit but man, I don't wanna explain the stuff coughed outta my lungs. It has been a long time since I have been sick and I am not enjoying the war going on in my body. It is definitely uncomfortable.

In the meantime I have been able to get a bit of work done at home. I have acquired a great computer table which was quite a bitch to get into my apartment. It is a corner table which allows me to see the world outside when I am on my computer, while freeing up my kitchen table for dinner! I love watching the eagles fly by, or the little chickadees, juncos, rosy finches and sparrows that visit my balcony munching on the seeds I put out for them. The mountains are beautiful at this time of year! I also got a coffee table which is gorgeous and matches all my furniture. Finally my place is livable again!

I have a new adm…

Weaknesses

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Colds. I very rarely get sick. I am very good at staying healthy throughout the fall and winter months, when everyone gets sick. I can bet with all my workmates that I will not get sick when they begin the domino effect of giving each other their colds. Whether my mother let me get really dirty when I was a kid or I am an alien, my immune system is definitely stronger than most. I haven't had the flu since I was about 8 years old. The flu where you are achy, feverish and throwing up. I have had my fair share of colds but I usually get a cold once every 2 or 3 years. Either that or I just don't remember my last cold. I might get a symptom of what could be a cold, but it just goes away. I assume my immune system was fighting a war in my body, during this time and won.

Today is the second day of my cold. It's not so bad but because I am so used to being healthy, it makes me feel crappy. I never believed that a cold is from going out in the cold without a coat on, wet hair, et…

Dumped!

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I am completely shocked. I have just been dumped. How can he dump me when he initiated every text, phone call and date? How can he dump me when our last messages were about wishing he was with me walking around Stanley Park? How can he dump me and say he doesn't want to stress about a relationship, when he was the one wanting to bring me up to Squamish? Everything he did is completely opposite to what he just did....dumping me. It all happened in the blink of an eye!!!!

Sure being the dumper is better than being the dumpee. In this case I am confused because I have no idea what I did wrong. His e-mail (coward) stated he really liked me and that is why he couldn't continue. My only conclusion is that he lied to me. He's either in a relationship, separated, married or looking for a good time. Unfortunately he ended up liking me.

I think I'm gonna stay away from men for a bit...

Living the Lead in a Chick Flick

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Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan were leads in the best chick flick of the 90's -- When Harry Met Sally -- and I used to think I was living that character of Sally in my 20's. I was in the longest unrequited love relationship with this friend of mine, Mark. We never ended up getting together, and the end of that first chick flick I had a starring role in, didn't end like all the other movies I loved. I did enjoy the unmistakable feeling of being in the lead role of a chick flick. You know, those dramadies made to replace the Walt Disney Prince Charming movies little girls grew up dreaming about. Those chick flick movies were made specifically for those grown up little girls, to show them that there are Prince Charmings in real life, and they don't dress in tights, look like frogs or wake you up from a deep sleep simply by a kiss. If you read or watch those fairy tales as an adult, the stories ring true to many of the stories in Nora Ephron movies. You just have to look deepe…

Love Notes Through Texts...

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When I got my first cell phone, I was less than enthusiastic. I had watched people let their phone take over their lives. Everyone seemed to have their cell phones out all the time, interrupting their work, conversations, movies, dinners, etc. I hated hearing the ring of a phone everywhere I went. When my previous job closed their doors, leaving us the false belief that we were moving sites. I wanted to have a working phone while we packed up the restaurant. I also wanted my kitchen staff to be able to contact me about work. I purchased my first cellular phone. It was like a new addition to my family. I was instantly caught up in the immediate connection to people wherever I was. It was a new experience, especially text messaging.

Text messaging is an amazing way of communicating without pressure. I find less pressure to answer questions instantly or think about my choice in words. You can text seemingly provocative messages to a person you have a crush on and feel no real stress over …

3rd Date Eve.....

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Going to the movies. Is this an appropriate date experience? I find that movies are fun with friends or with your long-time mate, which is a friend in the end. I find going to the movies is quit anti-social. You sit in the theater watching the big screen rather than talking to your date. Two hours seems to be a waste of quality time you could be having. I accepted this option for our date tonight because he decided he wanted to take me to a movie and a bite to eat.

Now, of course you can turn the whole movie experience around. Anti-social? No way! He can put his hand on your leg, hold your hand, put his arm around your shoulder, whisper sweet nothings in your ear, kiss your neck, or simply make-out in the back of the theater. I have had my experiences in movie theaters when I was younger. I won't mention what I did once when my boyfriend at the time dropped popcorn in his lap. Let's just say, it took awhile to find it down there. So, as I digress, I do have to say this could be…

Ray of Sunshine

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Monday was the day I decided to jump on that roller coaster again. I wasn't even the slightest bit frightened of the twists and turns, ups and downs, or jolts out of your seat. I just hopped in the car with a big smile on my face and dropped the bar over my knees.

I went on the third blind date in a month. The second was okay but this one was different. Ray, a guy I met on Plentyoffish.com, got in touch with me through looking at my profile. I remember responding back, not expecting anything special. After 20 or 30 replies back and forth, we finally exchanged phone numbers. We have been speaking to each other for two weeks on the phone and on-line. We seem to have great conversations and finally he asked if he could meet me. I agreed immediately and we met for coffee on Monday. We walked around Stanley Park, me showing the born and raised Squamish boy, around my beautiful part of the world. Of course, he lives in a very beautiful place too, but I was surprised by his wonder of the …